During college, Chrome and I had a conversation with our Ma. Ma was our English professor/Division Chair/mentor/Wonder Woman. She had decided that both Chrome and I looked very much like two of her daughters. . . so we asked her one day, “who’s our Daddy?”
In all eloquence and dignity, she replied, ” Girls, you can pick your own.”
The woman is BRILLIANT, I tell you.
Well, Chrome picked Carl Sagan to be her daddy and I picked Joseph Campbell.
“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“The warrior’s approach is to say “yes” to life: “yes” to it all.”
“Committing yourself to a person unconditionally is very different from having unconditional love for everybody in New York City. I’m not the Dalai Lama, who’s supposed to have unconditional love for everything in the world. Even God doesn’t have unconditional love. He throws people into hell. I personally don’t even think that unconditional love is an ideal. I think you’ve got to have a discriminating faculty and let bastards be bastards and let those that ought to be hit in the jaw get it.—–I think perhaps unconditional love is the Grail. It goes past God–a pretty big picture. Love, which is unconditional in marriage, is specific, it is focused. It is for that person and not for somebody else. Unconditional love goes right through everything, and it’s a breakthrough in spiritual life. Do not look for it outside of yourself. The only place to look for it is inside. If it is going to be unconditional love, what’s out there doesn’t matter.”
“The psyche knows how to heal, but it hurts. Sometimes the healing hurts more than the initial injury, but if you can survive it, you’ll be stronger, because you’ve found a larger base. Every commitment is a narrowing and when that commitment fails, you have to get back to a larger base and have the strength to hold to it.—Nietzsche called it “the love of your fate” Whatever your fate is, whatever the hell happens, you say, “that is is what I need.” It may look like a wreck,but go at it as though it were an opportunity, a challenge. If you bring love to that moment-not discouragement-you will find the strength is there.”
” the dark night of the soul comes just before revelation. When everything is lost, and all seems darkness, then comes the new life and all that is needed.”